Clarity: Getting ”Unstuck” In Life and Releasing Your Blessings

In your life movie, are you allowing others to write your screenplay, or are you determined to tell your life story?

As we become reacquainted with our own deepest desires, we’ll identify our beliefs, beliefs of others, emotional wounds, the need to repair any unconscious beliefs or unhealed emotional scars that may be blocking our heavenly portal.  pexels-photo-136238

“He then added, “Very truly I tell you, you will see ‘heaven open, and the angels of God ascending and descending on the Son of Man.” John 1:51{NIV}

“Healthy emotions are to the soul what the senses are to the body. They reveal the way we feel about life’s circumstances. However, some people are imprisoned by negative emotions. These people don’t just have a bad day once in a while – that happens to all of us. Rather, they feel as if they’re trapped, as if they can’t escape, and as if their very life is being choked out of them. When they wake up in the morning, they don’t say, “Good morning, Lord.” Rather, they say, “Good Lord, it’s morning.” They struggle to survive and may feel helpless, hopeless, and worthless.”-Tony Evans

Additionally, “strongholds” like anger, depression, worry, stress, and low self-esteem are lies which we have allowed to distort our thinking; a lie can gain a foothold in our emotions. Other ways that the enemy tries to get into our thoughts is through:

  1. Trauma
  2. Religious bondage
  3. Generational Inheritance
  4. Horror of fear-based movies/activities, and occult involvement

According to an article written by The Wound Care Center, “most of us are likely to sustain different types of wounds throughout life as we participate in daily activities. Many minor injuries result in damaged skin cells that lose their function and need time and simple treatment to heal.

Most common wounds are superficial, limited to the outer skin layers. Some are deeper, reaching the underlying tissues and organs. Depending on the cause, and depth, a wound can range from simple to life-threatening.”

In addition, to psychology studies, “the emotional wounds that occur during childhood are carried on into adulthood. These wounds feel as though they were just inflicted. Once a child learns to behave, react, feel and think a certain way, it is difficult to change that attitude when they grow up.”

Moreover, one of the significant barriers in our spiritual walk and relationship with God can be our father and mother wounds. Additionally, many times, our soul can become wounded from sin, our own sin or those sinning against us, soul ties, divorce (when two become one and then separate), the tie that is formed between the two souls are torn, tearing the two souls in the process and traumas (rejection, self-rejection, or fear, just, to name a few.

Unfortunately, pain is a normal part of almost any wound care regimen. However, an infection is one of the primary sources of wound pain; it also called a generational curse. A generational curse is a negative pattern that can be “passed down” from generation to generation. For instance, a father can have a problem with uncontrollable anger, his son may have been “handed it,” and even his father had the same problem. Alternatively, a family that suffers from persistent, irrational fears or depression can have both the mother and father suffer as well. The same idea applies to alcohol and drugs. On the upside, though, there are several ways to handle this discomfort.

“The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.”-Number 14:18

More importantly, here’s a favorite article written by Jennifer Sum called “Inner Vows Must Be Revoked.” She states, “Inner vows are declaration or promises we make about ourselves. Inner vows will come to pass – whether they were intentional or not, remembered or not, voiced out or not. They represent us choosing our will over God’s and need to be revoked before we can experience the fullness of the Holy Spirit.” Sometimes an emotional barrier can shut you off from fulfilling relationships because your inner self will not let go enough to trust and risk vulnerability. Sometimes we create Inner Vows and declarations that must be revoked to live an abundant life. (please come back to read this article).

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.”-Proverbs 18:21{ESV}

Are you in alignment with God’s plan and purpose for your life?

Although many things can hold us back from living our best lives, for me, the enemy began years and years ago to very subtly lay his trap for me and to pull me away from the things of God. However, amongst many was the root of rejection that caused me to carry false burdens meaning; bore a false responsibility in relationship to someone. Therefore, it got to the point where I begin wanting another person’s wholeness more than they do. When I didn’t help them, I would feel the sense of false guilt which was created from the spirit of rejection I had experienced in my past. For instance, if someone needed money for his or her bills, I was the “go-to person.” If someone needed money because someone else took advantage of them or they used their money to party instead of paying their bills; I would allow them to take advantage of me just to experience the feeling of “being needed.”

However, one day I clearly heard God ask, “How long will you try to play their god?” Not only was I hindering my own blessings, but I was teaching people to depend on me and not God. I honestly didn’t realize I was doing that, so it’s imperative that we learn how to hear the voice of God for ourselves. Through that, I learned that it is crucial to make sure we are in alignment with God’s plan and purpose for our life.

“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalm 139:23-24

Amongst others causes of rejection, I have also learned there are:

  1. Generational rejection
  2. Timing and manner of conception
  3. Baby not bonding with the mother or father
  4. Rejection causes after birth
  5. Symptoms of rejection after birth  (Being an adopted child, or forced either to live with relatives, in a foster home or to live in a different culture )
  6. Problems in school caused by teachers or schoolmates
  7. Multiple causes of rejection later in life

Also, the three greatest fears are;

  1. Fear of rejection
  2. Fear of failure
  3. Fear of death

With this in mind, there have been many dark moments in my life both in career and relationship. In many of those moments, I found myself stuck in disbelief, crying, “God! There’s got to be something more than this.”  I had to acknowledge what I was afraid of, what things need to be broken off from my life, what breakthrough I need to seek God for, and what generational curses, hexes, and occults through the family bloodline were necessary to cast off. Besides, I needed to figure out what bad habits – both conscious and unconscious – were required to be destroyed.

Our lives may have taken a different trajectory because of the decisions made by our ancestors. I saw these negative patterns from my family history that repeated in my life for years. I had to decide whether to continue to live a miserable life, allowing my children and the generation coming behind me to stay in a curse that I knew was holding me back from living my best life or break the cycle and find out why the blessings are not flowing and moving and start a new life focused on God. It is a decision!

Honestly, sometimes the most challenging conversation to have is with yourself and family, but I felt like I was struggling because of the rejection I had encountered in my life. I knew I had to make a change and redirect my attention and have clarity in my life and that things had to take a shift. Recently, I decided to take some college courses in Positive Psychology and becoming a Well-being Life Coach.

More importantly, I embarked on a Freedom Retreat to break generational curses. In a nutshell, I realize that I have to continue applying Kingdom principles to my life and, as a believer, infuse my life with a new sense of excitement and purpose. With this in mind, God’s plan for me is a better future!   I had to unpack and examine the falsehoods that once left me feeling overwhelmed and unworthy, and reveals the specific practical strategies that helped me move past them.

Today, though, is the day that God wanted me to release my story. I couldn’t allow people to take advantage of me and my kindness or allow this damaging effect of rejection to destroy me and how I view my relationship with others. Thank God, for His mercy and grace! Honestly, I understand the value of people lives; it’s not about making money – although you need money to pay bills – it’s about helping others. Why? Because it’s all about leading souls to Christ, and that will never change.

Why Do We Find It So Hard to Forgive?

According to an article written by Rose Sweet called “Forgiveness and Restoration,” She states, “one reason we resist forgiving is that we don’t really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We think we do, but we don’t.” I have learned many don’t experience the healing of forgiveness and the freedom it brings because they don’t understand the power of forgiveness. Unforgiveness keeps people chained to the past. We need to pray for the ability to “let go” and forgive others not for them, but for ourselves. Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things we face in life! The pain and hurt others cause us is real, but the ugliness, bitterness, sadness, negative attitude, hatred and on top of being injured misery. Also, it affects our spiritual growth and flow of blessings and so much more.

However, Exodus 20:6, tells us that Gods shows love and mercy to a thousand generations of those who obey Him. Although we sometimes see negative things that have been passed down through generation after generation, the blessing of God is passed down as well. However, the blessings God promised Abraham and his descendants are not automatic, as we, may have thought or was taught. “The Lord rewarded me according to my righteousness; according to the cleanness of my hands hath he recompensed me” (Psalms 18:20)

Lastly, there have been sacrifices made on our behalf maybe by a grandmother, grandfather or close family member that prayers are still being answered. Moreover, it’s a blessing to know that somebody, i.e., ancestor before us, in our, family tree sowed those seeds so that someday we may walk into the divine blessings of God.

I have learned that “freedom” is not about what you don’t do anymore; it is not what you get out of you, and it is not about what you get healed of.  Freedom is when you become the person you were created and redeemed to be!” He wants you “from bondage to freedom,” “from poverty to prosperity,” and “from the land of ‘Not Enough’ to the land of ‘More Than Enough,’” a land flowing with milk and honey!  Are you ready for the full access to your open portal to heaven today and allow the blessing of God to flow in your life?!

Important Blog takeaways:

Forgiveness and Restoration

Inner Vows Must Be Revoked

Breaking Strongholds: Gaining Freedom

Prayer to break strongholds