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Navigating To Mental Peace During The Holidays Ep.34

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Guest: Dr. Renee Davis, Licensed Clinical
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Topics:

  • How might shifting your focus from holiday expectations to embracing the present moment contribute to a more peaceful and fulfilling mental state during this festive season?
  • How to Navigate To Mental Peace During The Holidays

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In The Middle Of The Wait Ep.29

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Shalanda Wills

Topics:

  • When you’re in your wait you’re able to be available to those who are lost
  • Promotion comes on the other side of termination
  • You can’t withdraw out of an account you’ve never put anything into
  • Our struggles don’t destroy us- they transform us
  • Don’t lose focus on what God wants you to do; don’t use your emotions as an excuse
  • Trust God with your story
  • When you go through challenges don’t lower your expectations
  • Face it, embrace it, and give yourself grace

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Chitchat on Pause Ep.28

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Topics:

  • Don’t ignore signs to rest. If you’re tired you can’t serve people in excellence ; You cannot pour out from an empty cup
  • In order to hear what God is saying we need to stop and pause
  • Use your rest time wisely
  • Pausing during the day helps you reset
  • While you’re serving the church and God’s people you need to make time for your personal relationship with God
  • Stop picking up things that God did not ask you to carry
  • God’s desire is to walk through life with us
  • Pause, listen, and be obedient

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Risk Takers Pt.III Ep.14

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Guest:

Alyssa Rawlings

Topics:

  • Entrepreneurship
  • Clean beauty products
  • Personal Growth
  • Brand awareness & building foundations

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Can’t Turn Back Ep.13

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Topics:

  • Can’t turn back

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Power Thoughts: Lights, Camera, Action!

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According to a scientific study of the human mind and its functions, immediately upon awakening, some of us have trained our minds to reflect on our past events. Furthermore, our thoughts continue to live in the past by thinking about painful and hurtful events instead of being in their present state. Therefore, we find ourselves moving backward instead of forward by rehashing our past mistakes; We replay old scenes of tortured memories, rethink thoughts of us not meeting work targets or desired goals, we fester over whether we are a good spouse, we regret eating that cupcake last night or our overall diet, or we hover over the fight we had with a family member at the previous cookout recently. Some of us, instead of worrying about the past, perseverate on thoughts that create worries that, 85 percent of the time, will never actually even happen.

What are the famous cue words from a Hollywood camera crew? “Lights, Camera, Action!”

Many of us love working in the spotlight. Also, many of us want to be in the spotlight but have yet had the opportunity to get there. Moreover, they are some of us who prefer to work in the background to make sure that everything that’s in the spotlight, i.e., stage performances, works accordingly to plan.

Can we talk a little bit about the “Lights?”

Whenever someone has stepped into a higher position, whether it’s pastoral, leadership, supervisor, management or anything managing people, they move into the spotlight whether they want to be or not. Once they have taken on the responsibility to lead God’s people (and yes: even if you’re in a workplace, it’s still God’s people), they have to be positioning executives to make thoughtful decisions about their organization’s mission and goals, and appropriately allocate resources to achieve those directives. Valuable leadership skills include the ability to delegate, inspire and communicate effectively.

For me, I have always been in the background, even in a management position for over 16 years. My comfortability was in the environment of working with clients over the phones until settlement day. However, when God called me out to be a Group Leader at the church, it never crossed my mind that I now would have to work in front of the scenes. Now, I’m not only worried about what I do, but what I don’t do too. I worry about when I’m not praying or when I’m not fasting. I think about when I let my thoughts run wild and when my children think I’m crazy. I wonder about if my husband ever wants to sell all the real estate, retire and move away and leave me, when business is not working according to plan, and whether or not the new medicine is causing migraines so terribly that it’s trying to steal the gift of writing that God has given me.

Believe me; as Christians, we feel as though we struggle with finding peace and hope at times. Cindy Trimm says, “There is a direct correlation between the quality of your thoughts and the quality of your life. What you think determines who you are; it determines what you are, where you go, what you acquire, where you live, whom you love, where you work, what you accomplish, what you read.”

“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellences of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” {1 Peter 2:9 ESV}

Can we talk a little bit about the “Camera?” 

Although I’m in the spotlight, let me tell you how I’m going to help create the scene for the portrait to change the direction of my life. James Allen wrote in As a Man Thinketh, “All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.” This pushed me to reflect on what I’ve been thinking about for these last couple of weeks. It all of a sudden hit me: the new medicine prescribed for my migraine headaches had given more side effects then I had hoped. As a result, it affected my ability to think, write, teach and barely communicate for the past couple of weeks. I am here to tell you that the enemy will try to go as far as causing complications through newly prescribed medicines and their effects on your relationships, both family, and friendship.

Ironically, and something worth noting is that my office visit, at which I was prescribed the medicine, wasn’t even about migraine headaches, so some doctors don’t listen. I honestly am not even sure of what it was for in hindsight… perhaps it was due to the tension in my shoulders and neck. What I am sure of, however, is that the next step is to conquer it!

“For though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ, being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete.” {2 Corinthians 10:3-6 ESV}

Can we talk a little bit about the “Action”?

To this end, for me, being a writer is incredible, but I must go before every reader before they read anything I put my name on. Every supervisor has to meet with the CEO, director, and management of a company before meeting with their employees when introducing a procedure, or a new product. Pastors have to communicate with leaders and staff members before the congregation. In other words, what my family fails to see is that I’m taking every lick they didn’t get when they didn’t follow the procedures. I go before God in prayer on their behalf because I understand the spiritual warfare we’re facing. God chose me to be a warrior, and for those of you who are warriors, then you know the things we encounter. It’s watch, as well as pray. It’s not just watching for what you see, but for what you don’t understand and things that are in the spiritual realm. The hard part is when you have to try and balance knowing that with the family, who thinks you’re not fun and that you’re an introvert who always watches Marvel movies.

With that said, everything that you do is in your “action.” Nothing happens without putting forth action. You can set forth 50 business plans, and nothing will happen without…

However, one vital thing you should keep in mind is that you can start your day or even your night with something that is guaranteed to cover you and your family throughout not only the physical realm but the spiritual realm… That vital thing is worship! Sometimes we can’t understand why we have to go through the pain, hurt, or process. We struggle to understand why our hearts have to bleed with pain. What I have learned though is that I’d rather be broken and on my knees in the presence of the Lord in that secret place rather than be torn and lost where no one can reach me spiritually.

Our purpose is to worship the Lord Jesus Christ! Don’t miss this principle. The power for change is in your worship. The ability to change your marriage, to have a successful business, ministry, prosperity, divine healing for your health is in your worship! When you employ this strategy, you activate an anointing that brings all the elements surrounding your life in divine alignment with God’s purpose for you!

“But the hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for the Father is seeking such people to worship him.” {John 4:23 ESV}

“God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.”{John 4:24 ESV}

“Oh come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord, our Maker!” {Psalm 95:6 ESV}

The Power of Thoughts: I Believe I Can Soar

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If you had to be reincarnated into any animal of your choice, which would you choose?

Choosing the well-known Bald Eagle, the national bird of the United States would be a very wise choice. The bald eagle is known for its strength, courage, vision, fearlessness, high flying capabilities, large wings for soaring and for never surrendering to the size or strength of its prey. They can spot their prey from two miles away. They will also fight to regain territory and can be gentle, attentive and care fiercely for their young ones.

Eagles can soar above the raging storms and gushing winds with the storm pushing them to soar higher and higher. Although the storms carry the eagles higher to soar, they actually enjoy the turbulence of a severe thunderstorm.

However, for humans, the turbulence isn’t that appealing. When raging storms and gushing winds called “adversity” hit and life begins to happen, we run for shelter and pray for the turbulence to cease. In many cases, we begin to shut down and hinder our process instead of taking the approach of an eagle. We must not be afraid, but just in case you’re still a bit fretful, just in case you’re still not convinced, let’s take a look at the Bible because according to Isaiah 40, verse 31, “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like “eagles;” they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint” (ESV).

There’s a good possibility that we have all faced many storms in our lives or many desperate situations that left us feeling hopeless when we didn’t hear the voice of God or feel His tangible presence during a storm. But, His Word remains and won’t return to Him void. So, even with the rough patches in life, when you wait on Him, He (not you) shall renew your strength. To me, that means although we will go through trials, when the storm passes, we will rise like eagles and soar! The storm can’t last forever, and it was never meant to hurt you. So, hold on because those storms are never for us to lose faith, be hindered in any way, or throw in the towel. The storm is meant to drive you closer to God, your purpose, your spiritual growth, shape your character and drive you to new levels of faith in Christ.

I truly believe the moment you accept the fact that you are going to face heartaches, disappointments, storms and many, many more adversities, the faster you will be able to pick up the broken pieces, and the sooner you’ll begin to soar.

And with that in mind, each passing day should bring you excitement with not just knowing but also believing in the potential of substantial peace that takes you higher and higher until you feel the energy and strength to spread your wings and soar to the highest mountain top!

The Power of Thoughts: “Living Beyond Limitations”

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Did you know that you can take your power and energy back, not only from individuals but also from yourself, all by changing your mind?

When it comes to the mind, the average person has over 40,000 thoughts a day. However, many of our thoughts are not positively serving us. Unfortunately, many of our thoughts are toxic, and as a result, we have recurring behaviors that lead to negative thought-patterns that generate negative emotions.

Are you allowing your thoughts to run rampant or do you have them under control?

The other day, I began reading an online article (heartmath.org); it discussed DNA and how it contains the blueprints for who we are, as well as instructions for who we will become. The article went deeper. “Many people have mistakenly believed that the DNA in which we are born is the sole determinant for who we are and will become, but scientists have understood for decades that this genetic determinism is a flawed theory.” That statement was profound and made it clear to see how our thoughts and emotions have the ability to change our gene expression. Our thinking affects gene expression in cells of the brain and effects the rest of the body. Again, the article added profound insight. “Toxic thinking harms the normal functioning of the body.” In many cases, this causes illnesses like cancer, anxiety, fear, hypertension, etc.

How do we shift from negative thoughts to positive thinking?

Negative thoughts will always come, but you have the authority to put them in their rightful place. I have learned that the mind is always asking questions and looking for answers, and sometimes we fuel it with negative feedback. For example:

  • Your mind: asking a negative question – Why can’t I lose this weight?
  • You: fueling it with a negative thought and emotion by saying – I just hate the way my body looks.
  • Your mind: asking a negative question – Why aren’t I successful?
  • You: fueling it with a negative thought and emotion by saying – Nothing good ever happens for me.

With that in consideration, you must understand that you are not your mind. We cannot let our over-thinking mind define who we are, especially when it’s in a toxic state. Many of us are letting our minds run rampantly, leading us down a road of resentment and unhappiness.

What’s causing the fear?

Brooke Castillo, an awesome Life Coach, said, “love and fear cannot occupy the same space at once.” So, for me to learn how to take action I had to discover how to do the following:

  • Practice directing my mind to think positive thoughts
  • Learn/Recognize the way my mind is thinking
  • Learn that my thoughts are creating my actions, feelings, and results
  • Meditate to develop self-awareness of what’s triggering the thoughts that lead me to unhealthy habits, ones that cause continuing patterns

By asking myself specific questions, I was able to shift my gene expression, causing my mind to work “with me” and not against me. I realize that without changing our thoughts and emotions, our thoughts will become our reality. Therefore, our reality will then become our struggles because we are following the patterns that our minds continue to repeat. Just like the mind continues showing us old hurtful memories we don’t want to keep displaying in our heads. Though we are no longer in those harmful situations physically, mentally, it’s as if it continues to happen over and over again.

A negative thought can cause an individual to procrastinate and become frustrated as they begin to beat themselves up over every little thing. And then comes the thought, “I am a failure.” Being stuck in that type of mindset will immediately reduce the possibility of having thoughts of trying something new. Having a negative attitude of “my way or no way” will keep us trapped in a box and unable to learn or train our minds to think properly. I believe God was warning us when He talked about setting our minds on things above, things that are good, things that are just, etc. (Colossians 3:2). He knew we would have to face mental obstacles. Therefore, the ability to start that new business, take a new career path, and live beyond limitations is always one “thought” away. If your mind is telling you that you can’t do it, and you believe that lie, then you will not go beyond the lies your mind is persuading you to believe.

I once heard Tony Robbins say, “People smoke because they believe that smoking helps with calmness, anxiety and stress. But, the truth is, it’s all in the pattern of taking deep breaths by “inhaling” in and out.” Think about it! When we take deep breaths in and out, it helps us become calmer and more relaxed. I seriously laughed myself out of my chair! So, the tobacco industry was making a nice profit off me? lol (what was I smoking on!) What are the emotions you would experience? 

But remember, our emotions are created by our minds. For example, if you receive a call notifying you that you’ve won a “brand new” car, how would you respond?

  • Happiness
  • Excitement
  • Elation
  • Gratefulness
  • Appreciation

These are some of the feelings our thoughts create when receiving good news! Just imagine the thought of winning a car and not having to deal with a monthly car payment or the feeling of security when traveling around without having car issues, etc. As a result, choosing to have thoughts that align with how you want to feel is possible. Just imagine if you would take steps to train your thoughts and remind your “mind” that you can choose thoughts that allow “living beyond limitations.”

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